The thing is, emotionally, that might not work quite as well as theory wants you to believe. While I can leave my phone in it's designated charging space out of my reach, that doesn't work so well with my brain - or my heart. Where do you place emotional turmoil?
Using the four tendencies in real life
I started using Gretchen Rubin’s framework on the four tendencies a couple of months back, first with my team members. It has been transformative for my 1:1s, taking a lot of stress out of the interactions. Knowing what motivates them (and me) has brought clarity: clarity that I’ve channelled into more effective communication - and patience. This is how I apply it in my day-to-day (and why I tend to ask everyone around me to take the quiz).
Being myself isn't as easy as it sounds. So I have devised these seven rules to help me stay on track and ever more true to myself. This is how to Be Valentina!
My One Word for 2018: Awareness
I am not a big fan of new year resolutions. Most of them are forgotten by mid-February, and I know too many people who "commit" to the same fluffy and undefined "goal" every year. If I decide to achieve something, I prefer not to wait for an arbitrary date. I usually start working on a step-by-step plan right away. But I still like the spirit of the new year, so this year I've tried something different, inspired by Gretchen Rubin.
What my apologies taught me about my motivations
Not wanting to believe is different from not believing. Not wanting to believe requires active work to avoid believing "accidentally". Why would anyone, why would I, actively invest in not believing in my own worth? What purpose does it serve to believe that I am not good enough (yet)?
Does your agenda allow you to THINK?
Since moving into a leads role at Automattic, my responsibilities have changed quite a bit. Where previously I focussed on direct customer interactions (and some quality assurance), my primary concern is now my team and the division. This beckons the question: how do I organize my day? And what should I be doing? This very question was part of my most recent coaching conversation
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How to learn all those crucial skills
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The power of a set agenda
Ask any business guru and productivity coach, and they will confirm you the importance of a meeting agenda to make sure attendees can prepare. Ask any person who regularly attends meetings and they might confess that they look at the agenda the moment they dial in for the meeting or walk through the door. And yet, … Continue reading The power of a set agenda